A lot honey. A lot.
You see, I've had the pleasure of watching my friends and family members weave their way in and out of various relationships, for quite some time. I've witnessed every relationship level from elementary to junior high to high school and college.
The beauty of watching each relationship form, thrive, and unfortunately- come to an end, is the fact that as an emotionally uninvolved spectator i've been able to pick up on the trends and habits of those in relationships that are either destined to fail, or destined to be miserable in the long run.
I see so many fall victim to getting into a relationship just to escape loneliness. They appear to be the happiest of couples as they post their Instagram-worthy couples pictures, framing their date nights and cuddle sessions. We all contribute our likes, because we like to see people who deserve to be with someone that loves them dearly find happiness in each other.
Or at least, that's the way I used to look at it.
I like to think I've been awakened at this point.
I would notice that the Instagram bio's of the couple every one thought would be together forever would change, cute couple photo's would be deleted and the relationship that every one thought would make it seems completely abandoned. It could be just my natural reaction when I see people in relationships or friendships go through break ups, but I wonder; Who's hurt the most? Did they end on a good note? Was it terrible?
I know there are two sides to every story, so I never truly believe that it was all the girl or all the guy's fault, but I wonder if they realize that they both share a blame... anyway..
These are the thoughts that surface in my mind when I notice that a couple is torn apart. Especially since I am of the belief that whoever you set to choose to work things out with, so long as the other person willingly obliges your attempts, you can work things out with.
My thoughts are immediately halted however, whenever not two weeks later my Instagram feed contains a photo of one of the ex's cuddled up to another romantic interest claiming it's just as wonderful as the last one.
I've come to despise this actually.
Not only does this look incredibly heartless on the end of the person "moving on" (if that's what you want to call it), but it highlights a few traits:
1. This person cannot be alone with themselves... which means they are going into relationships out of desperation, not out of genuine love for who they are with, or understanding of who they are with and if that person suits them...
2. This person obviously cares more about being with someone than working on themselves, or working things out when times get hard.
3. This person is not as happy as they portray to be on Instagram, leading me to my final observation:
4. This person's relationships are fake.
It must be pretty easy to go in and out of relationships when they don't have much depth to begin with, or worse... you don't have a deep understanding of yourself or who you need to be with.
If you really want to be with someone who understands you, loving you inside and out, wouldn't you want to seek a relationship with someone who can give you just that, and keep them by your side?
I think my point is that I've seen too many Instagram relationships at this point to be excited for any new one's that show face on the Instagram feed. It's just not the same anymore.
If I am only observing the constant updates in relationship status and cute-couple aesthetics, and I am tired of it all, I wonder if those who run through Instagram-worthy relationships feel the same way.
What do you think about the relationship updates of those who run through relationships like water? Does it give you any insight to what those relationships are actually like?
Or at least, that's the way I used to look at it.
I like to think I've been awakened at this point.
I would notice that the Instagram bio's of the couple every one thought would be together forever would change, cute couple photo's would be deleted and the relationship that every one thought would make it seems completely abandoned. It could be just my natural reaction when I see people in relationships or friendships go through break ups, but I wonder; Who's hurt the most? Did they end on a good note? Was it terrible?
I know there are two sides to every story, so I never truly believe that it was all the girl or all the guy's fault, but I wonder if they realize that they both share a blame... anyway..
These are the thoughts that surface in my mind when I notice that a couple is torn apart. Especially since I am of the belief that whoever you set to choose to work things out with, so long as the other person willingly obliges your attempts, you can work things out with.
My thoughts are immediately halted however, whenever not two weeks later my Instagram feed contains a photo of one of the ex's cuddled up to another romantic interest claiming it's just as wonderful as the last one.
I've come to despise this actually.
Not only does this look incredibly heartless on the end of the person "moving on" (if that's what you want to call it), but it highlights a few traits:
1. This person cannot be alone with themselves... which means they are going into relationships out of desperation, not out of genuine love for who they are with, or understanding of who they are with and if that person suits them...
2. This person obviously cares more about being with someone than working on themselves, or working things out when times get hard.
3. This person is not as happy as they portray to be on Instagram, leading me to my final observation:
4. This person's relationships are fake.
It must be pretty easy to go in and out of relationships when they don't have much depth to begin with, or worse... you don't have a deep understanding of yourself or who you need to be with.
If you really want to be with someone who understands you, loving you inside and out, wouldn't you want to seek a relationship with someone who can give you just that, and keep them by your side?
I think my point is that I've seen too many Instagram relationships at this point to be excited for any new one's that show face on the Instagram feed. It's just not the same anymore.
If I am only observing the constant updates in relationship status and cute-couple aesthetics, and I am tired of it all, I wonder if those who run through Instagram-worthy relationships feel the same way.
What do you think about the relationship updates of those who run through relationships like water? Does it give you any insight to what those relationships are actually like?
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